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Understanding My Child

Autism Behavior Decoder โ€” Real help, honest answers, built by a parent who knows

What is your child telling you?

Share everything you observe. The more detail, the more specific and honest the guidance.

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Many parents report behavior changes around the full moon โ€” linked to parasite activity cycles.

๐ŸŒธ Cycle Overlap Detected

Your cycle tracker shows she may be in her period or PMS window right now. For autistic girls and women, internal sensations like cramps and bloating are amplified by sensory processing differences โ€” they can feel unbearable, not just uncomfortable. This is almost certainly contributing to what you are seeing right now.

Hitting / biting self
Hitting others
Screaming / crying
Covering ears
Covering eyes
Running away / escaping
Rocking back and forth
Head banging
Refusing to eat
Refusing to move
Throwing objects
Withdrawing / shutting down
Repetitive sounds / words
Stimming intensely
Stimming suddenly much worse
Crying without stopping
Pulling at clothes / skin
Sudden aggression โ€” no clear reason
Regression โ€” lost skills recently
Night waking / screaming at night
Licking / eating non-food items
Clutching / holding stomach
Arching back / pressing belly on floor
Refusing to sit or get comfortable
๐Ÿ” OCD Patterns
OCD โ€” repeating same ritual
OCD โ€” extreme distress if routine broken
OCD โ€” arranging / ordering objects
OCD โ€” asking same question endlessly
OCD โ€” needs exact words / responses
OCD โ€” checking behaviors repeatedly
OCD โ€” cannot transition between tasks
Red ears or flushed face
Bloated belly / gas
Constipation โ€” no BM in 2+ days
Constipation โ€” straining / painful
Hard rock-like stools
Diarrhea recently
Holding stomach / bent over
Teeth grinding (day or night)
Hasn't slept well
Runny nose / allergies
Skin rash or irritation
Seems tired / low energy
Hyperactive / can't stop moving
In her period / PMS window
Cramps visible โ€” holding lower belly
๐Ÿฆ  Gut, Yeast, Parasites & Toxins โ€” Most autistic children struggle to detox naturally. These signs are critically underrecognized.
Yeast โ€” white coating on tongue
Yeast โ€” craving sugar / carbs intensely
Yeast โ€” sweet or bread-like body smell
Yeast โ€” giggling / laughing for no reason
Yeast โ€” spacey / disconnected look
Yeast โ€” behavior much worse after sugar
Parasites โ€” behavior worse around full moon
Parasites โ€” grinding teeth at night
Parasites โ€” anal itching / irritation
Parasites โ€” dark circles under eyes
Parasites โ€” picking nose constantly
Parasites โ€” waking 1โ€“3am screaming
Toxins โ€” stimming suddenly much worse
Toxins โ€” sudden skill regression
Toxins โ€” pale or yellowish skin
Toxins โ€” dark urine / very strong smell
Gut โ€” undigested food in stool
Gut โ€” very bad smelling stool
Gut โ€” distended / hard belly

Analyzing the full picture...
Behavior ยท gut ยท pain ยท moon phase ยท cycle ยท diet

Here's what the pattern is telling you ๐Ÿงก

Honest note: This tool is a guide built from real lived experience โ€” not a medical diagnosis. Trust your instincts as a parent. You know your child best. Use this as a starting point for conversations with your support team.

Pain Tracker

Autistic individuals feel internal pain differently โ€” sensory processing amplifies it. A level 4 pain for a neurotypical person can feel like a 9 or 10 for someone with sensory processing differences. This tracker helps you map where the pain is and how intense.

Autistic children often cannot say "I am in pain." Instead they scream, melt down, bite themselves, or shut down. The behavior IS the pain signal. By tracking pain locations consistently, you begin to see patterns โ€” and can finally give your child's doctors real data instead of guesses.

1 = Mild discomfort 10 = Unbearable

Remember: for autistic individuals with sensory differences, internal pain is amplified. A 5 here may equal a 9 in neurotypical terms.

Rate pain by body area โ€” tap a number for each area that seems to be bothering them
๐Ÿง  Head / Headache
๐Ÿ‘‚ Ear / Jaw
๐Ÿฆท Teeth / Mouth
๐Ÿ’› Upper Gut / Stomach
๐ŸŸ  Lower Gut / Cramps
๐ŸŒธ Menstrual / Pelvic
๐Ÿฆต Joints / Muscles
๐Ÿ”ฅ Skin / Sensory

Gut & Constipation Tracker

Constipation is one of the most underrecognized causes of behavior problems in autism. A child who hasn't had a bowel movement in 3 days is in real pain โ€” and cannot tell you.

When stool sits in the colon too long, it ferments. This produces ammonia, histamine, and bacterial toxins that get absorbed into the bloodstream and cross into the brain. For autistic children who already have compromised gut barriers (leaky gut), this is catastrophic. Aggression, stimming spikes, screaming, self-harm โ€” all can be constipation. Always check the gut first.

Bristol Stool Chart โ€” What did it look like? (tap to select)
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Type 1
Separate hard lumps โ€” severe constipation
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Type 2
Lumpy sausage โ€” mild constipation
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Type 3
Cracked sausage โ€” borderline
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Type 4
Smooth soft sausage โ€” ideal
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Type 5
Soft blobs โ€” lacking fiber
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Type 6
Mushy pieces โ€” inflammation
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Type 7
Liquid โ€” diarrhea
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No BM
No bowel movement today
Additional observations
Straining / crying during BM
Undigested food visible
Very foul smell โ€” worse than usual
Mucus in stool
Blood in stool
Pale / clay-colored stool
Green stool
Belly very hard / distended
Refusing to sit on toilet
Behavior much worse today
These are real, practical steps โ€” not generic advice:

๐Ÿšจ If no BM in 3+ days:

  • Magnesium citrate or magnesium oxide โ€” a gentle osmotic that draws water into the bowel (start with 200โ€“400mg, adjust to child's size)
  • Increase water significantly โ€” dehydration is the #1 cause
  • Warm prune juice or apple juice (small amount)
  • Gentle belly massage โ€” circular clockwise motion following the colon direction
  • Warm bath โ€” relaxes the gut muscles
  • Vitamin C to bowel tolerance โ€” natural osmotic effect
  • If no BM in 5+ days โ€” contact your doctor. This is urgent and may require a suppository or enema

๐ŸŒฟ Daily prevention protocol:

  • Magnesium glycinate daily โ€” gentlest form, also supports sleep and calm
  • Probiotics daily โ€” Lactobacillus reuteri specifically helps gut motility
  • Digestive enzymes with every meal
  • Increase water โ€” many autistic children are chronically dehydrated because they don't feel thirst normally
  • Remove gluten and casein โ€” these slow gut motility significantly in leaky gut situations
  • Coconut oil daily โ€” natural antimicrobial and gut lubricant

๐Ÿ”ฌ Investigate if chronic:

  • OAT test โ€” check for yeast and bacterial overgrowth causing fermentation
  • GI-MAP stool test โ€” full picture of gut microbiome, parasites, inflammation markers
  • SIBO (Small Intestinal Bacterial Overgrowth) โ€” very common in autism, causes chronic constipation and bloating

Cycle Tracker

For autistic girls and women, menstrual pain is not just uncomfortable โ€” it is often unbearable. Sensory processing differences amplify every internal sensation. Tracking this is essential for understanding behavior.

Autistic girls and women feel everything more intensely because of how their nervous system processes sensory information. Menstrual cramps that a neurotypical person rates as a 4 out of 10 can feel like an 8 or 9 for an autistic person. This is neurological โ€” it is real, it is not an overreaction, and it is completely overlooked by most doctors. Meltdowns, aggression, self-harm, and shutdowns during the menstrual cycle are very often pure pain responses that the person cannot verbally communicate.

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Cycle Day
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Current Phase
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Days to Next Period
Heavy flow
Light flow
PMS window
Today
Month Year
Sun
Mon
Tue
Wed
Thu
Fri
Sat
Cramps
Bloating
Lower back pain
Headache
Mood very low
Extreme irritability
Sensory sensitivity much worse
Stimming increased
Meltdown today
Refusing food
Nausea
Fatigue / won't get up
Breast tenderness
Self-harm / hitting self

Immediate relief:

  • Heat pad on lower belly and lower back โ€” most effective non-medication relief
  • Dim all lights โ€” sensory load directly amplifies pain perception. A quiet dark room reduces all pain
  • Remove uncomfortable clothing immediately โ€” tight waistbands become unbearable during cramps
  • Magnesium glycinate 300โ€“400mg โ€” relaxes uterine muscle, reduces cramp severity significantly
  • Omega-3 fish oil โ€” reduces prostaglandin production (the hormone causing cramps)
  • Warm bath โ€” full body muscle relaxation and sensory calming

Monthly protocol to reduce severity:

  • Start magnesium 5โ€“7 days before expected period โ€” prevents the worst cramp cycles
  • Omega-3 daily all month โ€” reduces overall inflammation and prostaglandin levels
  • Vitamin B1 (thiamine) โ€” strong research showing it reduces menstrual pain
  • Vitamin D3 โ€” deficiency worsens menstrual pain significantly. Most autistic individuals are deficient
  • Track her cycle and prepare her environment 2โ€“3 days before โ€” reduce sensory demands, plan quiet days

Tell every doctor:

  • Her cramps are neurologically amplified โ€” standard pain scale responses are not accurate for her
  • Behaviors that appear behavioral during her cycle may be pure pain responses
  • Request a referral to a gynecologist who has experience with neurodivergent patients
  • Rule out endometriosis โ€” it is significantly underdiagnosed in autistic women and causes extreme pain

Diet & Supplement Tracker

Consistency is everything with biomedical protocols. Track what you are giving and what protocols you are following.

Gluten-Free (GF)
Casein-Free (CF)
Sugar-Free / Low Sugar
Soy-Free
Specific Carbohydrate Diet (SCD)
GAPS Diet
Low Oxalate
Low Salicylate
Feingold Diet
Organic foods only
No artificial colors / preservatives
No diet protocol currently

Tap to mark active supplements. This feeds into the decoder for more personalized guidance.

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Probiotics
Gut balance, yeast control
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Magnesium
Sleep, calm, constipation, cramps
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Vitamin D3
Immune, mood, pain reduction
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Omega-3
Brain, inflammation, cramp relief
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Zinc
Immune, gut, behavior
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B6 + Mag
Classic autism protocol
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Methyl-B12
Methylation, detox
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Glutathione
Master detox antioxidant
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Enzymes
Break down food properly
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Antifungal
Caprylic acid, oregano oil
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Antiparasitic
Wormwood, black walnut
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NAC
OCD, detox, glutathione
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GABA
Calm, anxiety, sleep
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Melatonin
Sleep onset
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Epsom Baths
Magnesium, detox
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Charcoal
Toxin binder, die-off
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B1 Thiamine
Energy, menstrual pain
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L-Glutamine
Gut lining repair, leaky gut

Pattern Log

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Parent Action Guide

Real, honest knowledge from real experience. Not watered-down generic advice.

๐ŸŒ• Full Moon & Parasites Critical

Parasites reproduce during full moon cycles, releasing ammonia and toxins that cross into the brain. Many autism parents see significant behavior spikes 3โ€“5 days around the full moon โ€” this is real and trackable.

  • Signs: sudden aggression, night waking 1โ€“3am, teeth grinding, anal itching, dark circles worsening, increased stimming
  • Full moon window protocol: increase probiotics, activated charcoal to bind toxins, nightly Epsom salt baths
  • Natural antiparasitic herbs: wormwood, black walnut hull, clove โ€” use with integrative practitioner guidance
  • Track 3 months against the moon calendar. Repeating patterns are real data for your doctor

๐Ÿ„ Yeast / Candida Overgrowth Very Common

After any antibiotic use, yeast overgrows and produces arabinose โ€” an alcohol-like brain toxin causing giggling, spaciness, sugar cravings, and behavior spikes. This is one of the most common and most missed issues in autism.

  • Signs: white tongue, intense sugar cravings, sweet smell, giggling for no reason, spacey look, behavior much worse after sweets
  • Remove: sugar, refined carbs, fruit juice completely
  • Add: high-quality probiotics daily, natural antifungals rotated monthly
  • Die-off warning: behavior worsens 3โ€“7 days when yeast dies โ€” support with charcoal and extra water
  • Test: OAT (Organic Acids Test) confirms yeast โ€” ask an integrative doctor

๐ŸŒธ Autism & Menstrual Pain Girls & Women

Autistic girls and women experience menstrual pain at a neurologically amplified level. A cramp that is a 4/10 for a neurotypical person is a 9/10 for someone with sensory processing differences. Meltdowns, aggression, self-harm, and shutdowns during the cycle are often pure pain responses that cannot be verbally communicated.

  • Immediate help: heat pad, dim lights, remove tight clothing, quiet space, warm bath
  • Magnesium glycinate 5โ€“7 days before period: prevents the most severe cramp cycles
  • Omega-3 daily: reduces prostaglandins โ€” the hormone causing cramps
  • Vitamin B1 (thiamine): strong research support for menstrual pain reduction
  • Tell every doctor: her pain is neurologically amplified โ€” standard assessments underestimate it
  • Rule out endometriosis: severely underdiagnosed in autistic women, causes extreme pain
  • Plan ahead: reduce sensory demands and school/therapy requirements for 2โ€“3 days around her period

๐Ÿšฝ Constipation Crisis Check First

Constipation is one of the most common and most overlooked causes of behavior crises in autism. Fermenting stool produces ammonia and toxins that get absorbed and affect the brain. Always check the gut before assuming any behavior is purely behavioral.

  • No BM in 3+ days: magnesium citrate, increased water, warm prune juice, belly massage (clockwise), warm bath
  • No BM in 5+ days: contact your doctor โ€” this is urgent
  • Daily prevention: magnesium glycinate, probiotics, digestive enzymes, increase water, remove gluten/casein
  • Investigate if chronic: SIBO, OAT test, GI-MAP stool test, yeast overgrowth

๐Ÿ†˜ Sudden Behavior Spike โ€” Check This Order Right Now

  • 1. Pain: Ears, teeth, gut, constipation, UTI, cramps โ€” nonverbal children cannot say "I hurt"
  • 2. Constipation: When did they last have a normal bowel movement?
  • 3. Cycle: Is she in her period or PMS window?
  • 4. Diet slip: Gluten, dairy, or sugar in the last 24 hours?
  • 5. Yeast flare: Recent antibiotics? Sugar binge? Sweet body smell?
  • 6. Moon phase: Are we in the full moon window?
  • 7. Sensory environment: New smell, sound, light, fabric?
  • 8. Illness approaching: Behavior often changes 12โ€“24 hours before fever appears
  • 9. Missed supplements: Was magnesium or B12 skipped recently?